As the wedding season approaches, the invitations start pouring in. You would often start wondering what wedding gifts you should buy, how much you should spend, should you even give a gift even if you are not attending the wedding and so on. Weddings are one of the trickiest parts of etiquette territory that one needs to navigate. They can be both confusing and overwhelming. But here is a comprehensive guide that can help you with the wedding gift etiquette.
How Much Should You Spend?
This is one of the toughest decisions to make. How much you should spend depends on a number of factors. The first thing to consider is how close the bride or groom is to you. Are they good friends, family members or just a co-worker whom you just meet once in a while? Consider all these aspects.
A big part of your budget decision depends on these. The budget should usually be more for close ones, while for casual relations you just go with what the norm in your society is. Then comes other things like at times, you might have to travel to attend the wedding function, which is an added expense and you wonder what to do. There are times when you are invited to attend pre and post wedding functions too along with D-day celebrations. In such scenarios, you would be left wondering whether you need to give multiple gifts of lesser denominations or just one.
Should You Send a Gift Even If You Are Not Attending the Wedding?
This depends entirely on your relationship with the bride or groom. If you are close to them and still not able to attend their wedding for some reason, you should definitely send a gift. It can vary with culture too, but in most places, a wedding invitation is seen as a gracious gesture, which needs to be reciprocated. However, if you are not very close and it’s just a casual invitation, you can simply get away by sending your good wishes either on phone or through card or mail. Whatever you choose to do, make it a point to communicate your wishes if you get an invitation.
Should You Bring the Gift to the Ceremony?
Most of the people bring the gift to the ceremony as they wouldn’t want to attend it empty-handed. However, things are changing fast. These days, people opt for destination weddings or they wed in their native place while they work and stay somewhere else. In such scenarios, bringing the gift to the ceremony adds extra hassle for the couples to get those gifts transported to the required locations.
Also, most of the guests now order gifts online, so instead of getting it delivered to your address and then carrying them to the wedding venue, it makes more sense to get it delivered to couple’s address directly.
Keep all the above points in mind as a guide to wedding gift etiquette and choose gifts accordingly.